Is remarriage after divorce always adultery?


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Shea S. Michael Houdmann Supporter Got Questions Ministries
Before we even begin to answer this question, let us reiterate, 'God hates divorce' (Malachi 2:16). The pain, confusion, and frustration most people experience after a divorce are surely part of th...

July 01 2013 6 responses Vote Up Share Report

Mini Priscilla Quarles
God is the author of marriage he designed it and laid down the laws for it to work. If we try to deviate from God's design for marriage it will not work successfully. Marriage is a covenant. God made a covenant with man he said I put my bow in the sky promising not to use water to judge the earth ever again..Today we still see evidence of his bow in the sky. Well,this is what marriage is an everlasting promise . I promise to love you in sickness and health until death. We enter a covenant with God when we give our life to him .That means he is entering the marriage covenant with you 2Corinthians 16:14 Once you have entered the marriage covenant with God and your mate it is sealed with the breaking of a worman's hymen. Now it is a blood covenant,this is the reason why marriage is to last forever. Once the woman's DNA enter into a man's DNA they becomes one flesh Only when a third party without a covenant comes in and add their DNA it changes the DNA of the one flesh and break the covenant. That is why God said you may divorce for this reason.There is no longer a covenant in place the covenant has been broken.Matthew 19:9. 

When we remarry we are free to enter into another covenant as long as they are in the lord. Whether its the wife or husband that has broken the marriage covenant for whatsoever reason only God knows the heart it motives and intentions .Sin is from the heart. When a man looks upon a woman longing and desiring to be with her sexual he is committing adultery in his heart Matthew 5:27,28. God is a restoring God he knows how to make a crocked rode straight . God's will is for us to remarry so that we won't continue to live in adultery 1Corinthians 7:8 If we fell by leaving our marriage for an unjust reason. Pick yourself up ask for God's forgiveness and move on Proverb 24:16.

October 31 2013 1 response Vote Up Share Report

Stringio Zahari Schtonov
All of the Biblical laws were addressed to people - the Israelites - who were supposed to know God already. The law was written so the people could know they are in sin! Otherwise they cannot be judged. 

With that being said, there are many people today that have never truly heard of God and Who He really is. Until a person gets saved, he could've had a horrible life and experiences full with sinful behavior. That includes fornication and also adultery. They could've also murdered someone which also counts as a sin, we would all agree on that. It doesn't matter what the sin is - it's just Sin. 

Now here is where God's mercy (not man's "interpretation" of the Bible or what the Bible "might" be saying) comes in. We have a merciful and forgiving God. Let's not forget that! Let's ask ourselves a couple of questions here: 

1). How many times would He forgive us if we have sinned? Well, there is an account in the NT where Jesus - The Son of God teaches Peter about that issue. What did Jesus say to him? He said: "... I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven." (Matt 18:22 KJV). Do you think that God would be any different with our sin? I don't think so. He won't be called Merciful! 

2). Do you believe you were saved? How many times God can save you? The answer of that question is more simple - once. That's how many times you get saved. Because it is preordained for you to be in the state of grace which comes from God alone. Here is the big problem of the people in the modern church: they try to continue to interpret the Bible, which is an ancient book, written 2000 years ago, into our day and age. We live in the NT era. Which means we are under a New Covenant with God. Everything relating to the Jews in the Bible including the NT is for the Jews at that time, when they knew about God and the Law. If today a person gets saved, what happens to him or her if they had been divorced even 3 times? Here is what God says about that in the Bible: "Come now, and let us reason together, saith the Lord: though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool." (Isaiah 1:18 KJV). So be reasonable and think with God! What does He want for us? He wants us saved first and foremost and He is a forgiving and merciful God our Lord. 

So rest assured He wants you to be where you are right now and your future that he has prepared for you before time began. Be blessed everyone and believe in the Lord Jesus Christ and you, shall be saved. Amen!

February 06 2015 1 response Vote Up Share Report

Stringio Karim Hosein
It really depends on who did the divorcing. I believe that a follower of Christ cannot divorce for any reason. When Jesus was asked if a man can divorce for any reason, he answered, "what God has joined together, let no man separate." Matthew 19:3-6 

Now this passage goes on to echo what he said in Matthew 5:31-32 that if a man divorces a woman, he turns her into an adulteress. The exception is the case of sexual immorality, in which case he does not turn her into an adulteress. Going back to Matthew 19 and the relevant parts of the old testament (Genesis 1:27, Genesis 2:24 and Deuteronomy 24:1-4) we see the context of this exception.

God never intended for divorce and even in the case of Deut 24:1-4 where the woman, "becomes displeasing to him because he finds something indecent about her," she still becomes defiled by the second marriage (see verse 4). A certificate of divorce was a piece of paper allowing the woman to remarry and thus commit adultery (Matt 5:31-32).

The exception was that if the man was sexually immoral and was abandoning the wife, she was no longer bound by the marriage vows (1 Corinthians 7:15) or if the wife was sexually immoral and was abandoning the husband, he was not turning her into an adulteress: she was doing that herself and he is no longer bound.

So the only exception to the case where a believer may divorce and remarry seems to be that if a believer is abandoned by a non-believing spouse, the believer may remarry. A true believer does not have the choice to divorce (Matthew 19:4-6 and 1 Corinthians 7:12-13) even if one's spouse commits adultery. In such a case, the believer should forgive their spouse if the cheater is willing to repent and stay with them.

May 22 2014 1 response Vote Up Share Report

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Matthew 5:32
King James Version (KJV)
32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery. For·ni·ca·tion
sexual intercourse between people not married to each other.
"laws forbidding adultery and fornication". Luke 16:18
King James Version (KJV)
18 Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery. So even the innocent spouse and the one with that person will be in adultery. Mark 10:12
King James Version (KJV)
12 And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery. 1 Corinthians 7:11
King James Version (KJV)
11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife. 1 Corinthians 6:9
King James Version (KJV)
9 Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, People will try to say fornication and adultery are the same but clearly are used differently and have different meanings, and those who are divorced whether they want the divorce or not, are not free to remarry. It is a salvation issue. The only way someone is free to remarry is if they were not your covenant spouse, they were previously married to their one and only spouse, that was their only spouse. Example, Jan is married to Ted and he cheats on her and they divorce. Neither are free to remarry anyone else. But say Ted was married to Stephanie before Jan and they are covenant spouses, then and only then is Jan free to remarry, only in the Lord. If Ted doesnt remain single or be reconciled to Stephanie he can not inherit the Kingdom.

May 22 2014 6 responses Vote Up Share Report

My picture Jack Gutknecht ABC/DTS graduate, guitar music ministry Baptist church
No, remarriage after divorce is not always adutlery. There is clearly one instance at least that it is not. And that is if one of the partners dies after the divorce. I wrote this answer to a Christian couple who were counseling 2 people thinking of remarriage. Lee Ann told me it was a wonderful answer. Here it is: 

" For the married woman is bound by law to her husband while he is living; but if her husband dies, she is released from the law concerning the husband. So then, if while her husband is living she is joined to another man, she shall be called an adulteress; but if her husband dies, she is free from the law, so that she is not an adulteress though she is joined to another man." Romans 7:2-3 (NASB)

"But if she marries another man while he is alive, she commits adultery and becomes an adulteress. When he dies she is no longer an adulteress." Paul’s message is that the marital relationship is broken when a spouse dies. So that would free up the others to remarry.

December 06 2020 0 responses Vote Up Share Report

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