Is a man a Christian if he seeks and invites temptation into his life and knowingly plans to have a affair and hurt his wife?


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Imag0495 Lynn Willis Obedient Daughter of the High King of the Universe
The pain of this question jumped out through the screen at me and compelled me to comment. 

Personally, I do not believe any Christian would SEEK to sin... but temptation is everywhere and we are weak, and satan takes many forms to tempt us to fulfill his role to 'lie steal and destroy'. We are sinners who needed Jesus to be redeemed and reconciled with the Lord. Does anyone enjoy sinning? Some do. There is pleasure in sinning... for a short time. Then the consequences and repercussions arrive. 

I can only speak from my own experience as a born again Christian, that I feel awful when I sin, and almost immediately repent to the Lord and ask for forgiveness. If one is a devoted Christian, I do not feel anyone would seek to sin because scripture explains we are made new in Christ, which changes one's desires and values. The sins of this world are no longer desired or priorities as they once were. Now, for me, the most important thing is Jesus. He comes first in ALL things, I am second.

And He said to the adulterous woman:

John 8:11
She said, No man, Lord. And Jesus said unto her, Neither do I condemn thee: go, and sin no more.

Nowhere in THAT did Jesus say He would save us and give us a free license to sin TOO!

Hebrews 10:26
For if we sin wilfully after that we have received the knowledge of the truth, there remaineth no more sacrifice for sins,

Yes, we will all sin. As we walk with Christ however, the weakness and temptation to sin becomes less and less. However, we must still repent and ask for forgiveness and the blood of the Lamb will wash us clean then we need to GO AND SIN NO MORE! 

We also cannot mock God for this grace, this wondrous free gift that He gave to us, for it is not something we can use as a 'get out of hell card' whenever it suits us either. I find, living in Christ, I WANT not to sin, whereas before Christ, I justified my sins as 'not as bad as some others" and just continued to live in sin. Thanks be to God's grace, NOW i live in TRUTH!

Paul said it right with:
Romans 6:1
What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin, that grace may abound? 2 God forbid. How shall we, that are dead to sin, live any longer therein? 3 Know ye not, that so many of us as were baptized into Jesus Christ were baptized into his death? 4 Therefore we are buried with him by baptism into death: that like as Christ was raised up from the dead by the glory of the Father, even so we also should walk in newness of life. 

And while Jesus sacrificed Himself for us, took our sin, and was mocked and tortured and reviled and crucified for US, so much so that the Father couldn't even look at Him, this is not a loving, selfless sacrifice made to be misued because mocking God, and his sacrifice for us, well:

2 Chronicles 36:16
But they mocked the messengers of God, and despised his words, and misused his prophets, until the wrath of the LORD arose against his people, till there was no remedy.

Amazing Grace, that saved a poor wretch like me. How wonderful that grace appeared, the hour i first believed,... t'was grace that taught my heart to fear, and grace my fears relieved.

I do not think the cheating husband, who is a Christian, would choose to cheat on his wife in order to hurt her, but instead to give into his earthly desires. I don't think any husband would cheat if they really thought about that aspect of the repercussions of that choice before acting. I think sinning is something that happens when temptation comes our way and we do NOT turn to Jesus for deliverance and strength and victory over the enemy.

Pray for that man, whoever he is, that the Lord would put it on his heart to repent for even the thought of adultery, for nothing he could confess would make Jesus love him less. 

Forgiveness is also something that we need to employ to honour the Lord in all things.

Jesus never said it would be easy, just that it would be worth it.

I hope this has helped somewhat. Peace and Blessings, in HIM, Lynn

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Stringio Vincent Mercado Supporter Skeptic turned believer, Catholic, father of 3
If this man is baptized, then yes, he is a Christian.

If he sins after he becomes a Christian, that makes him a sinful Christian. If he is aware of his sin or he intentionally wants to commit sin, it only makes him more culpable. He is still a Christian, that is his identity and as a Christian, he should use Christ's grace to avoid temptation. By inviting temptation and intentionally sinning, a Christian makes himself more culpable.

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Seth3 Seth Freeman
Sounds like you just described King David. But King David even took it a step further and had the husband of the woman he had an affair with murdered. 

Would King David have gone to heaven had he died of a heart attack in the middle of his affair? I'm not God, but I think so. 

It's impossible for us to judge the hearts of men (and women). It's also not our place to judge their hearts. All Christians still sin, sometimes in more damaging ways than others. 

What we are called to do as Christians is confront the sin in other Christians' lives. Jesus laid out for us the exact way for confronting sin in Matthew 18:15-17 

15 “If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. 16 But if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, that every charge may be established by the evidence of two or three witnesses. 17 If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church. And if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector.

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