How should Christians discipline their children? What does the Bible say?


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Shea S. Michael Houdmann Supporter Got Questions Ministries
How to best discipline children can be a difficult task to learn, but it is crucially important. Some claim that physical discipline (corporal punishment) such as spanking is the only method the Bi...

July 01 2013 1 response Vote Up Share Report

Mini BONG JUALES180 degrees Christian Youth Band
I believe that children should be disciplined. As a follower of Jesus we should act this in our home so that our children will follow us, be a mentor as what Paul did to Timothy, be a role model. If The family bears the fruits of Holy Spirit (Gal 5:22-23) there will be a happy and disciplined children. Discipline is to know your part as a parent. Sometimes we are doing this because out of emotion. When we spank them, try to let them first understand before you spank so that they will know why they are being disciplined, so they will not be rebellious children.

November 22 2014 0 responses Vote Up Share Report

Mini phillip paul Phillip M. Paul-minister Tranter's Creek Church of Christ
I believe that discipline is necessary in raising children in today's society. They have taken discipline out of the classrooms, and it seems few parents are disciplining their children anymore. I believe children should be spanked if the conduct calls for it. I also believe there is a difference between a spanking and a beating.

November 22 2014 0 responses Vote Up Share Report

Stringio Oun Kwon
What I have learned after several decades of (dismal) parenting!

Does the Scripture say 'Obey your parents'? They would do opposite very well (see a Korean folk tale 'green frog'). Do this, don't do this - these all usually don't work and tend to build up an attitude of reluctance. Their immediate reaction is their feeling and their gauging how the parent acts and shows instead of listening to what is actually said. Did our Lord say 'Love me' or 'Love others' in imperative mode as a command? Hardly it can be. The verb should be read as 'be you obeying' 'be you loving'. In other words, He wants us to become the kind of person we should be. "Be a person who obeys parent!, be a person who loves others! Just see me, see how I have loved you all." 
Without being totally transformed with Him who lives in me, not my self living, everything I hear would sound nothing different than 'laws' 'rules' 'regulation' 'rituals', i.e. legalism par excellence.

Let them learn to HONOR parents, as parents show in their expression, attitude, speech, yes, love them and keep them honored. This is how we may actually honor our Father in heaven, by doing others as God would do them. Honoring His name in our everyday life is what it means by 'love your God'.

July 15 2013 0 responses Vote Up Share Report

Afolabi.jpeg Olusegun Afolabi
DISCIPLINE OF CHILDREN; Matthew 18:10, "“See that you do not despise one of these little ones. For I tell you that their angels in heaven always see the face of my Father in heaven". 

Children are a gift to man from God, and therefore they must be properly guided and taught in the way of the Lord, for the continuity of life (Proverbs 22:6). Teaching of the child requires every aspect and opportunity to learn and behave adequately, which makes discipline a necessity to correct wrongs and allow the young person to understand wrong and right.

Hebrews 12:5-6, "And you have forgotten the exhortation which speaks to you as to sons, 'My son, do not despise the chastening of the Lord, nor be discouraged when you are rebuked by Him. For whom the Lord loves He chastens, and scourges every son whom He receives.'”

Despising a wrongful act is not an encouraging attitude, and also it's not helpful to the younger mind. Though the common belief is that wrongs cannot be intentional, and similarly we need to accept that the associated damages and consequences may be unbearable. This makes it important to enforce disciple as a moral aspect of human life.

Deuteronomy 6:6-7, "And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up". 

June 01 2018 0 responses Vote Up Share Report

My picture Jack Gutknecht ABC/DTS graduate, guitar music ministry Baptist church
"A spanking won't kill them. A good spanking, in fact, might save them from something worse than death." (Proverbs 23:13-14 MSG).

"Those who spare the rod hate their children" (Proverbs 13:24 MSG).

Proverbs 13:24 He who withholds his rod hates his child Proverbs emphasizes the importance of discipline, viewing it as a matter of life or death (Pr 19:18; 23:13-14). Since children are characterized by folly in Proverbs (Pr 22:15), proper training and discipline ensure they will remain on the right path throughout their lives (Pr 22:6). - FSB

My wife and I spanked our kids when they needed it!

Now see “The rod and rebuke give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother” (Proverbs 29:15). “Correct your son, and he will give you rest; yes, he will give delight to your soul” (Proverbs 29:17). My view is that parents who fail to discipline their kids have a hard time disciplining themselves.

November 07 2021 0 responses Vote Up Share Report

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