What did Jesus mean when He instructed us hate our father and mother (Luke 14:26)?


Luke 14:26

ESV - 26 If anyone comes to me and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters, yes, and even his own life, he cannot be my disciple.

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Shea S. Michael Houdmann Supporter Got Questions Ministries
First, we must take this verse in the context of the chapter. Jesus is teaching His disciples, and like any good teacher, He begins with a truth statement that is hard to understand in order to get...

July 01 2013 5 responses Vote Up Share Report

Doktor D W Supporter
He meant that in order for the 12 plus the 70 or so, plus the 120 at Pentecost, plus the 18 language groups gathered there, that if they could not take up His Cross and follow Him without looking back, they would serve no useful purpose.

September 10 2013 0 responses Vote Up Share Report

Mini James Kraft 74 year old retired pipeline worker
First of all Jesus is talking about discipleship, not salvation which is a free gift from God.

A disciple should love Jesus more that his parents. Not hate his parents. 

It was the same way with Jacob and Esau. God loved both of them but loved Jacob more than Esau. Jacob was his choice to be the line that Jesus would be born into. 

God commanded us to love our father and mother that our days may be long on the earth. A command with a promise. But we are a child of God. John 1:12 When we leave our father and mother God is now our heavenly Father.

August 24 2021 0 responses Vote Up Share Report

My picture Jack Gutknecht ABC/DTS graduate, guitar music ministry Baptist church
Jesus instructs concerning discipleship in Luke 14:25-27), in regard to the candidate's family (Luke 14:25-26)—a discipleship proof: He or she must place Jesus above them; and in regard to the candidate himself (Luke 14:27): He or she must carry his or her cross and follow Jesus. HW

When our nearest and dearest relationships prove to be positive obstacles in coming to Christ, then all natural affections must be flung aside; comp. Deuteronomy 13:6-9; 21:19-21; 33:8-9. A reference to Matthew 10:37 will show that ‘hate’ means hate by comparison. “He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me.” Our Lord purposely stated great principles in their most audacious (boldest) and even most paradoxical form by which He alone has succeeded in impressing them forever as principles on the hearts of His disciples. Cambridge Bible for Schools and Colleges

One of the Amplified Bibles, Amplified Bible, Classic Edition (AMPC), it has: “If anyone comes to Me and does not hate his [own] father and mother [[a]in the sense of indifference to or relative disregard for them in comparison with his attitude toward God] and [likewise] his wife and children and brothers and sisters—[yes] and even his own life also—he cannot be My disciple." (Luke 14:26)

NLT: “If you want to be my disciple, you must, by comparison, hate everyone else—your father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters—yes, even your own life. Otherwise, you cannot be my disciple.”

I.e., unless you love less your nearest and dearest loved ones than you love Christ, you cannot be His disciple. 

"Hate" doesn't justify malice or ill will toward one's family, but it means that devotion to the family must take 2nd place.

October 18 2021 0 responses Vote Up Share Report

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