What should a Christian wife do if her husband hardly wants to be intimate with her?


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Stringio Teresa Wiltz Freelance writer and copy editor, Christian
A married couple should never allow the devil or even others to interfere with their sacred bond which is ordained by our Heavenly Father. This is a world of countless sinful temptations attacking those who are loyal and devoted to Jesus Christ. Marriage is similar to the type of holy covenant between God and the Church. The Bible constantly speaks about how various trials and tribulations of this world will affect God’s faithful followers; but also teaches a way of escape for those who remain faithful to Him. The devil is running rampant trying to deceive and destroy all facets of Christian living—including marital temptation and loyal obedience to Christ. 

1 Corinthians 7:2-5~“But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. 3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. 5 Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”

It is important for married couples to rely on all the attributes which were appealing to each other at the start of their relationship. All of those same beautiful qualities endearing enough to spiritually and verbally commit to each other by vowing in the presence of God should therefore be remembered and honored for the duration of married life; especially during times of illness and various hardships. If one’s marriage is slipping between the cracks of life’s challenges in any or all areas, ask God to be the glue that will seal the broken pieces with His perfect and sustaining grace. Study the Bible together and pray for wisdom as one flesh to honor God’s Word and each other because with God as your foundation, nothing and nobody would ever have the power to fracture your marriage.

As Christian women, we should not be afraid to initiate intimacy with our spouse because God instituted marriage as a holy union in which we are to freely explore the benefits of our innate sexual desires without the burden of committing adultery or fornication. Some of the most intense and loving examples of physical love are found in the Book of Song of Songs. Maybe we could all benefit from reading such profound scriptures based upon King Solomon and the rapturous beauty of his bride.

Song of Songs 1:16-17 (She) “How handsome you are, my beloved! Oh, how charming! And our bed is verdant.” (He) “Beams of our house are cedars; our rafters are firs.”

April 26 2014 1 response Vote Up Share Report

Mini joyce whaley
I suggest that she talk with her husband and ask him what the problem is and where does it lie, within him or her. Is he not attracted to her anymore? Has he fallen out of love? Is there some other woman on the scene? Are finances disrupting the flow of intimacy? You have to gently find out the root of the problem and once you understand then you can begin seeking the Lord for guidance to correct the situation through the word of God, counselling and through various literature being offered. But definitely they have to have a heart to heart conversation about what is going on. 

Based on word of God in 1 Corinthians 7 if the matter is not addressed in a timely matter other factors will creep in to compound the situation making it almost unrepairable

April 28 2014 0 responses Vote Up Share Report

Seth3 Seth Freeman
If I may be blunt here, I might ask him where he's getting it if he's not getting it at home.... If having a heart to heart with him doesn't work, I would probably try and involve a Christian counselor. A real Christian counselor though, I've seen a lot of churches offer counseling only to find out that the people giving the counseling aren't actually counselors.

April 28 2014 0 responses Vote Up Share Report

Data Danny Hickman Supporter Believer in The Gospel Of Jesus Christ
Not enough info is given to offer a cogent answer. How old is the woman? The advice is certainly different for a 22 year old than for a 62 year old.

How long has the couple been married? Do they have any children? How many?

Are there any other major issues such as the one named? How was the love-making before it stopped? Has it completely stopped, or has it simply gone from being a fireman's hose to being a trickle from a faulty spigot? 

Can the guy be reintroduced to the real world, or has he burned his library card? Was he ever what some of us refer to as a "normal sexual being?" If he was always a little bashful about intimacy it might just be who he is. Maybe he performed just long enough to get himself a wife. People have been known to get married and then let their mate know that they're not too interested in physical intimacy, and expects the mate will find love in the arms of another, not expecting that the person might be morally opposed to adultery. What I'm describing isn't far fetched!

There's a difference in a fire that has gone out and one that was never really hot. 

Here are the usual suggestions:
1) Follow your heart (Solomon says it like this: Walk in the ways of your heart and the sight of your eyes. But know that for all these things God will bring you into judgment (Eccl 11:9).
2) pray about it (Paul told the church to pray without ceasing (1 Thess 5:17).
3) Talk to your pastor

I don't know if these can turn cold fish into hot apple pie. Number two should be done all day every day, rain or shine. What is God up to when He leads us beside waters that are not still? He's ALWAYS up to something... 

If she finds out what that is, intimacy with a mate won't seem so important, no matter how old or young she is.

February 28 2022 0 responses Vote Up Share Report

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