For follow-up discussion and general commentary on the topic. Comments are sorted chronologically.
Lady Pamela Ann Green
NO! it is not wrong for two people to have sex outside of pro-creation, if they are married.
Danny Hickman
To believe that sex for pleasure is not right is to believe that pleasure of any kind is not right, in my opinion. Almost everything we do we do to get a good feeling about life. I don't eat to stay alive. It works out that way, but I choose something I like in order to get pleasure from eating. I remember when reading the bible wasn't fun for me, so I didn't do it. I do it all the time since it started being pleasurable.
When married couples no longer enjoy sex, they stop engaging.
The problem is that one of them might lose interest before the other. Then a question like this one will enter the conversation. Should pleasure be the only reason to do it? It's the best one I can come up with.
Danny Hickman
Four years later; the marriage bed is part of the discussion.
Let's try to clear this up about "the marriage bed." What was the writer talking about? Was he talking about 'sex strictly for pleasure' between husband and wife?
Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous (Heb 13:4)
Just as I thought. If that scripture is used in reference to a question about sex for pleasure between husband and wife, it's being quoted out of the context in which it is meant. It pertains to honoring a marriage by being true to one another. It has nothing to do with whether sex between husband and wife is less honorable (or defiled) if they are adventurous.
Hebrews 13 is all over the place. The writer acts as if he's running out of ink and wants to squeeze in some final instructions. Brotherly love, hospitality, prison visitation, the love of money, contentment, and also "the marriage bed," is addressed in the first 5 verses.
How do all of these subjects tie together? (that's worthy of study)
My point is, I see the "marriage bed" reference all the time and I never think it pertains to the subject being discussed, because Hebrews 13 is all over the place. What exactly does the "undefiled marriage bed" have to do with the love of money or prison visitation? If we answer that, we get an understanding of the context of the narrative. I do know that it isn't about sexual pleasure.
stanford ross
When GOD created us, HE gave the woman the only organ in both of our bodies that its only purpose is for sexual satisfaction. That should at least tell men what their responsibility is toward their wife. There are three different ways to bring this to a climatic experience. A Christian wife will surely also bring satisfaction to her own husband, especially to her mate who is looking out for her.
Stanford Ross