Is it considered lust to comment or joke about the attractiveness of a person to whom you're not married?

I was speaking to a friend of mine about a sermon I was watching online and after sharing parts of the teaching that I thought with resonate with her, I went on to say that she should watch the pastor's videos and also that he is really handsome so they're even more fun to watch. Of course, I meant that last part as a joke, but she seemed to be offended. Is the statement that I made considered to be lustful or sinful in any other way? And if so, is it bad to call others handsome if I were actually attracted to them? Or is the attraction itself bad? 

Matthew 5:28

ESV - 28 But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

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Mini Tim Maas Retired Quality Assurance Specialist with the U.S. Army
Not to sound puritanical, but...

While God created men and women to be visually appealing and sexually attractive to each other, He also created a framework (heterosexual marriage) in which those attributes were to be fully expressed. If (as Jesus said in Matthew 5:27-30) merely looking at a member of the opposite sex with lustful intent is equivalent in God's view to the commission of adultery, then it surely seems to me that making open comments expressing a similar orientation or attitude would be equally inappropriate, no matter how humorously or "innocently" they might be intended. 

In considering such remarks, I find it personally helpful to ask myself whether I can picture Jesus Himself making the same comment. If I cannot, then it is best to resist the urge to speak it. It also seems to me that there is always a way to express such opinions in words or tones that do not convey even a hint of such a context. And, with time and practice, the individual's thought life will also begin to exhibit a similar restraint.

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