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Should a widow remarry?


1 Timothy 5:14

NKJV - 14 Therefore I desire that the younger widows marry, bear children, manage the house, give no opportunity to the adversary to speak reproachfully.

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The answer is Yes. Bible advises to get married if needed.

✿ Four commands for young widowed women: 
1. To marry (1Tim. 5:14; Heb. 13:4; 1Cor. 7). 
2. To bear children (1Tim. 5:14; Gen. 1:28). 
3. To guide the house (1Tim. 5:14). 
4. To give no ground to Satan (1Tim. 5:14-15)

October 21 2015 2 responses Vote Up Share Report

Me Lynda Hickman Homemaker, plumber, carpenter, all around gearhead
In 1993, at the age of 44, I became a widow for the first time. My husband & I had been faithfully serving the LORD in a bible believing church. 
His death followed a long recovery after being hit while he was jogging by a drunk driver. Having lost his renal function, he endured dialysis for over 3 years before his weakened body finally gave out. His escape from the earth was a blessing to him.

One year later, I was reunited with a man whom I had met many years before. I would love to say that we married & lived happily ever after. But that's not true. We did marry, enjoying over 20 years of happiness, but along the way he was diagnosed with colon cancer & though he fought it, in Jan. 2015, it finally overpowered him. His escape too, was a blessing.

Neither of these marriages produced children. 

1 Tim 5:5-6, the Apostle Paul diagrams the difference between women who are widowed. On one hand there are women who, like Anna, having become a widow, spend their time seeking the LORD in prayer & bible study.
In Luke 2:36-37 we learn about Anna, who at about 84 years old & widowed after only 7 years of marriage, she "did not depart from the temple, but served GOD with fastings & prayers night & day" 
So even though she was widowed at a young age, young enough to have married again & have children, she, like Mary (Luke 10:40-42) chose the good part.

On the other hand there are women who seek only pleasure as they lives out their remaining years. Paul says that this woman "is dead while she lives."

When I was widowed the first time, feeling physically & emotionally drained, I had no intention of marrying again. But when "John" came into my life, we both knew immediately that it was part of GOD's plan for us. It wasn't that it "felt" right, but we knew that there are several biblical reasons for people to have a mate, besides having children.

In Ecc 4:9-12 it says that two are better than one because they will have a good (better, more valuable, abundant) reward. And if one or both should fall, they can help each other up. "For woe to him who is alone when he falls, for he has no one to help him up." There is strength & warmth when two people are rightly joined together serving GOD.

I have often wondered what my life would have been like without those two men. Both loved the LORD, both served Him. Both were faithful husbands to me & as partners in our faith in Christ Jesus, we grew, giving, encouraging & sharing our faith with those we met.
And both men endured great suffering & physical stress & I was there to give comfort to each of them

In each partnership, it was obvious that the strengths were multiplied more than just 2 fold. 

So the answer to the Q, "should a widow remarry? Is a very personal Q. 
Whether young or old, when a woman is widowed she is "free" to marry again if that is what she chooses to do. Rom 7:3 & 1 Cor 7:39

I would advise any woman who is widowed, to consider several things as she looks ahead at the rest of her life, not just her age or her desire to have children or whether she already has children (and possibly grandchildren), but how the LORD is directing her daily walk with Him, in her prayers & bible study. And without a doubt she should seek wise counsel from her pastor.

And I would love NOT to be able to say "I am free" because, as C. S. Lewis said after his beloved Joy went to heaven, "one doesn't realize in early life that the price of freedom is loneliness. To be happy one must be tied."

But at the age of 66, I choose now to be tied to Him. My "free time" is not free!

September 16 2015 0 responses Vote Up Share Report

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