If a parent spares discipline, are the children spoiled?

Spare the rod, spoil the child is disputed as unbiblical, is this true?

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B8c746f3 63c7 43eb 9665 ef7fba8e191b Kelli Trujillo Supporter Minister, Mother, Grandmother, Teacher, Musician
Psalm 51: 5 says, "Surely I was sinful at birth, sinful from the time my mother conceived me." Since the fall of Adam and Eve, every child--no matter how different in personality or temperament--has a sin nature, is subject to sin and not the Holy Spirit, and therefore must be taught and trained to obey biblical laws and societal laws.

Think of children as a garden: The garden's natural state is chaos and disorder; without care, it will not yield its full potential and will be taken over with choking weeds. In addition, the garden must be protected from pests and diseases, and some plants need training vines to hold them up and to help them grow in a certain direction. If we give all of this care to plants to help them grow in the best way possible, all the more important it is for us to intentionally train and discipline our children.

Romans 3: 20 says, "Therefore no one will be declared righteous in God’s sight by the works of the law; rather, through the law we become conscious of our sin." Without anyone to help them understand acceptable behavior and the laws of God, children will naturally revert to transgression. This holds true for adults, as well.

The scripture indicates clearly to us that discipline coupled with love and consistent training are necessary if children are to avoid being spoiled.

May 11 2013 2 responses Vote Up Share Report

Stringio Colin Wong Supporter Founder, eBible.com
The verse you're looking for is actually Proverbs 13:24. 

Whoever spares the rod hates their children, but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them.

And yes, this is Biblical.

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