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In some marriages, the abusive spouse has a form of Godliness (avid churchgoer) only and doesn't really seek to live as God has commanded. As a praying woman of God, I lived through 15 years of continual verbal, mental, and physical abuse. After the physical abuse once; he never touched me physically again but he threatened to. He continued the verbal and mental abuse. Trust me, I stayed and prayed with every fiber of my being until I reached my breaking point. I was drained, the abusive language, name calling etc. Took a toll on me so that I couldn't even smile, hold my head up, or look people in the eye and lost my appetite. I literally lost my joy, self esteem and wanted to die. I realized that he had no intentions of stopping as long as I stayed. Apparently, he thought it was okay since I put up with the abuse for 15 long years of my life. In a nutshell, I left when he threatened me the last time and my life has evolved so much. I got peace and my joy back and I give God praise and thanks every single day for rescuing me.
I would assume the Christian wife is married to a Christian husband, my opinion is the Christian wife should do the following: Avoid trying to confront your husband when he is in a bad mood Avoid any kind of argument that would provoke him easily Look for the best time, when he is happy to talk to him If your talking doesn't work, talk to his pastor or someone he respects Look for the bests ways to love him more Most importantly intercede for him, because you must know that the devil is out to destroy your marriage. I hope my counsel helps?
The biggest determining factor is going to be whether or not the husband is a Christian or not. If the husband is not a Christian, then sadly, he's doing what sinners do - sin. While divorce is not an option unless he initiates it (assuming he's not a Christian), you don't have to live in an abusive situation, especially if there are children involved. I would pray for him, and see if the two of you can go to counseling. If the husband is a Christian, then I would first try confronting him and talking to him about his heart and see if you can find out what's really going on. Talk to your Pastor, and have him or the elders at your church intervene if it becomes serious. And again, if you find yourself or your children really at danger, while divorce is not an option, you can leave the house.
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