If I was the one who committed adultery should I divorce my spouse?


Clarify Share Report Asked February 24 2014 Mini Anonymous

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David goliath victory hg clr Jim Tumlinson One beggar leading others to where the bread is
No and again I say no. Marriage is the highest form of relationship there is, and there are far more repercussions than what people consider a simple divorce. If you committed adultery then don't do it again, if you have a hard time not doing it again then I suggest you get with someone who will not judge you and will help you walk it out. If you are having problems with your spouse who is not seeing the necessity of your needing sex then you need to firstly apologize if they know about it and prove to them that you can be trusted again. Then at the right time you will need to explain your need for sex or whatever your particular situation is. 

Many people do not talk about their needs in the bedroom or anything for that matter. It is important and needs to be out in the open or something like this may happen again. If you had a one time thing then make sure you cut it off and tell the person you were with that you need to cut it off and that you never should have done what you did and that even though you did what you did you should not have disrespected your spouse like you did. I know this is humbling but it will help you reconcile this in your own heart and life. When we make the effort to face our issues and move forward it helps us mature.

If your spouse does not know I would not suggest telling them at this time. It will take time for them to mature if they are not and even if they are it is still difficult for them to get through. You don't want to start more drama in your life than what is already there. Stay faithful to your spouse and do not visit the place or any place that will remind you of your connection with that person if at all possible. You can find in Proverbs where it says "stay away from that corner or street". 

If you have done this more than once then you need to see someone who will not judge you but will counsel you, since it may be an addiction and needs to be dealt with differently, IE triggers etc.

Most of all do not separate what God has put together and you really don't want to destroy a covenant relationship. If anyone tries to convince you to divorce they are not speaking the word though it may look like it. The relationship is far more important than the sin, if it wasn't then Jesus died for nothing, His death was to give us a relationship with the Father in spite or our sins. Same with you, His death was to give you a relationship with your spouse in spite of your sin.

Always cherish your marriage and protect it at all costs even if you made a mistake, you still need to protect it and your spouse. It is imperative you protect your marriage and spouse, the enemy will try and destroy your marriage at all costs, he will even use religion or religious people to do it. DON'T DIVORCE no matter what.

Be blessed more and grace and peace to you. :)

February 25 2014 2 responses Vote Up Share Report

Seth3 Seth Freeman
Absolutely not. If you were the spouse that committed adultery, you need to repent, ask your spouse for forgiveness, and seek restoration. If your spouse wants to divorce you, then they are permitted. However, and this the part that's really tough - until they get remarried, until there is absolutely no hope of restoration (and the only way there would ever be absolutely no hope of restoration would be if they remarried or died) - you are to stay single.

February 25 2014 8 responses Vote Up Share Report

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