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The Apostle Paul says that the wife is "bound" to her husband as long as he lives (Romans 7:2). The principle here is that either the husband or wife has to die before the marriage bond is broken. ...
I can sum it up in one word. OVERLOOKING. Overlooking all the little things that annoy and frustrate each orher. As a Christian mom (and foster mom for 34 yrs) and being married for 43 yrs we have been through a lot of ups and downs over the years. People divorce over the minutest things nowdays. My hubby and I didn't always "like" each other but with God's help we got through and have a greater love for each other now. It helped me to realize that everyone is born in sin and because of the fall of man everyone is somewhat dysfunctional (even you)in one way or another from having little quirks to being mentally ill. There is no such thing as a totally functional family. God wants us to turn to him with all issues. It is only through Christ that any marriage can be whole.
Marriage is a covenant. A choice. It is CHOOSING to love another human being as Christ first loved us. Unconditionally, selflessly, without seeking its own. It is laying "self" down. It is being the vessel through which Christ loves your spouse. What happens when two human beings commit to loving and being loved by Christ THROUGH one another? It just works. He gives us very clear instructions in the Bible on how to love one another. Yet we deviate from it... out of fear, out of insecurity, out of a lack of faith... and that is when we fail our spouse.
We have endured the numerous, typical ups and downs of marriage for almost 56 years! Why? 1. We made a vow to God to honor, serve, obey each other until "death do we part!" That's an inviolate vow! 2. We both believe the other is a gift to us from God! 3. We laugh at and with each other frequently. 4. We have verbally pledged that we would die for each other! 5. We are experiencing what it is like to "become one flesh!" 7. We both have been rescued by God and have submitted our lives to serving Him as He directs! We have both individually and as a couple faced trials, setbacks, issues and valleys in our marriage. But, God has always guided us through them as long as we depended on Him and have been obedient to His direction.
The Bible calls us to love and serve one another. In general, (and yes I understand this is a generalization), affairs happen because either a wife is attracted emotionally to another man and becomes involved with him, and/or a husband is attracted sexually to another women and gets involved. My advice to young couples is always the same. A husband needs to be attentive to his wife and her needs, to listen to her, connect and be there emotionally for her (even when he is tired and doesn't feel like it). Then his wife will never need to look elsewhere for her needs to be met. A wife needs to satisfy her husband regularly, again even at times when she may not feel like it. He would never need to look elsewhere for sex as his needs are met. It is all about love and a giving to one another. If every husband and wife did this one thing each, there would be such a difference in the longevity and the quality of marriages.
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