How important is physical attraction when looking for a spouse?


Clarify Share Report Asked July 01 2013 Mini Anonymous (via GotQuestions)

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Shea S. Michael Houdmann Supporter Got Questions Ministries
There is no doubt that God created men and women to be physically attracted to one another. The sexual component in marriage is important for intimacy between husband and wife and for procreation a...

July 01 2013 1 response Vote Up Share Report

Image Bryan Naidoo Post graduate and pastor
May I ask, what happens after five years when your spouse is no more physically attractive - do we look for another? Again I ask, what happens after a given time when your spouse is not compatible anymore, do we find another who is?

Is not this the trend of our present times. If your spouse of ten years is not that attractive anymore or compatibility, what do we do?

Can anyone tell me if Eve was attractive? We know she "lusted" for something against God's will. How did she do it? "With her eyes".

I would agree Jacob's eyes fell on Rachael rather than Leah. What would have been the position if it was Leah first he met at the well instead of Rachael?

May I also say that marriages which have been arranged 'lasted more than a lifetime'...it is a proven fact. 

I conclude by saying that marriages which look for physical attraction or for compatibility are risky, but marriages when God pairs a couple together not only last but achieve God's will.

I am married for forty years and I am still learning to understand my wife, she just changes, whenever and whatever, but I love her. We are a very very happy family with many grandchildren. Someone up above put us together "till death do us apart."

Our marriage was not because of compatibility or physical attraction, but the work of our "good lord". My word of advice, our eyes can deceive us, seek the face of our Lord and allow the Spirit to lead you. God does not make a mistake.

June 09 2017 0 responses Vote Up Share Report

Philip medium Philip Davies
If it is important to you, then it is important.

You are choosing a partner for life. One that is to suit you and fit you in all things till the end of your days. There are many things that you will count important in a partner which others will not. It is important that your partner meets your needs. There is no point you having a partner that you find unattractive if it means you constantly look over your shoulder at others. That is a dangerous situation to be in. 

You need to mutually choose a partner who best meets your needs and who is a real help meet to you in all ways. And that means someone who is fitted to you and you too them.

January 30 2017 0 responses Vote Up Share Report

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