I want a baby, but my spouse does not. What do we do?


Clarify Share Report Asked July 01 2013 Mini Anonymous (via GotQuestions)

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Mini Andrew Hayman
Our Lord loves to answer pray. 
Don't get drawn into the temptation of manipulating him to get what you want, there is no real joy in that; but what a joy it would be to ask The Lord to change your spouses heart, and see it happen :)
This is what happened with us, my wife did (she told me), I didn't, she prayed, Jesus changed my heart: we now have seven precious children. 
I really believe it is a point of faith for a wife not to push or manipulate her husband. Rather she should share her mind (lovingly) and if he will not receive it take it to God. Have a look at Genesis 21, Sarah says, Abraham disagrees, God steps in. Now that is exciting. 
Now your problem has just become an opportunity!

October 25 2013 4 responses Vote Up Share Report

Shea S. Michael Houdmann Supporter Got Questions Ministries
The Bible declares children to be a blessing. Psalm 127:3 says, "Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb is a reward." This is contrary to the way much of the world vie...

July 01 2013 5 responses Vote Up Share Report

Seth3 Seth Freeman
Pray about it individually. Pray about it together as a couple. Ask God to direct you and to show you whether or not having a child is the right thing. Continue to do that until you both come to the same conclusion.

If you can take the decision out of your hands and your wants, and place it on God and make the decision based upon what you believe God wants for your lives, it may make it easier to reach a mutual decision.

October 24 2013 1 response Vote Up Share Report

Open uri20160927 330 1enriub Paul Stewart
I'm writing from the other side...I am a spouse that chose not to have kids, while my spouse wanted them. I agree with the advice to pray about it, but also consider what you will do if your spouse still says no, for whatever reason. I know that I my wife prayed for 20 years for me to change my mind, but I didn't. That may well be for selfish reasons (things that I have to face, live with, and no doubt answer for) but the answer from your spouse may still be no...you must also consider that possibility...can you live with that?...if you were not married already I'd say don't marry, but as you are you must consider this too...

This is a hard one for you, and also for your spouse. Keep praying.

June 11 2019 0 responses Vote Up Share Report

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