If my husband was asked to leave the church due to inappropriate advances toward women should I leave too?
My husband has had issues with inappropriate advances toward women. This has been an ongoing thing that we have discussed. He likes to play the victim. Recently he was asked to leave our church because of it. I was told I could remain if I chose. My heart is broken and I feel torn.
Matthew 18:15 - 20
ESV - 15 If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. 16 But if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, that every charge may be established by the evidence of two or three witnesses.
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Paula Fether
Supporter
I'm sure this is difficult for you on many levels. But perhaps by staying while he is expelled, he may come to his senses. Too often we try to shield loved ones from consequences of their actions, but then the offenders never learn their lessons. In 1 Cor. 5 Paul instructs the congregation to expel a man living in sexual sin, to "hand him over to Satan for the destruction of the flesh". Your husband's obvious and habitual weakness, for which he is unrepentant, certainly demands this kind of response. There is no reason for you, who are also a victim (infidelity, since Jesus said even to look at a woman lustfully is the same as carrying out the act, and that "your eye causes you to sin"), to take his punishment.
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