My ex husband and I are were both non-believers when we got married. We were both unfaithful in the marriage and eventually my ex husband left me for another woman, whom he married and now has a family with her. I gave my life to Jesus 11 yrs ago and have been hesitant in getting married as I do not want to sin against God! My question is, have we been forgiven for being unfaithful towards each other, and am I free to marry without committing adultery? My friend's wife has passed away, we have a great connection, he is also a follower of Jesus! How do we know that it is ok for us to get married in God's eyes?
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Good question, Aranka! Can a divorced woman remarry? The only specific allowance for remarriage after a divorce is for adultery (Matthew 19:9), as you have acknowledged is the case with you two. And as long as you, God's child, repent of the adultery and divorce, and ask for forgiveness of these, God will grant it because of your faith in Jesus Christ (Mt 26:28; Eph 1:7). Remember, divorce itself is sin as God Himself has told us that He hates divorce (Mal 2:16). So, repent of it if you haven't already, as I believe my dad did after he divorced my mom, and you will be forgiven as he was!
Divorce is not the unforgivable sin. You said you received Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior eleven years ago, so eleven years ago every sin of yours was forgiven. So you are free to marry as the Lord wills.
I'm not married and I've not yet married but with the little that I know about marriage in light of the scripture, I will try and answer this question. So from what I understand, you were married and then you divorced because of adultery on both sides. You're now a new creation and you want to get into marriage with a new person. And I feel what you want is bible backing to support your wanting to get married again. There is actually nothing like divorce when it comes to God (Mal 2:16) but God allows people to divorce just to bear with them. In this case, the only grounds he provides for which two people can divorce is adultery (Mat 5:32). You divorced from your first marriage under acceptable grounds. You repented and were born again, meaning get you're a new creature, the old things are past. You're a new person, a changed person. I don't see what should stop you from getting married.
This is a good question, and it is an important one. The answer is that you are free to marry your friend. Sin was committed in your first marriage when you broke your covenant. But there is no sin in forming a new covenant. Sin only happens when you break a covenant not when you make one. Your first marriage was over when your husband left and you are "not bound in such circumstances" 1Cor 7:15. That means you are no longer bound in marriage to your first husband. You are free to marry again. God has called us to live in peace - and I wish you a happy and peaceful life with your new husband. Regards Philip
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