Why is loving others often so difficult?


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Shea S. Michael Houdmann Supporter Got Questions Ministries
Loving others can be extremely difficult at times. A common phrase to refer to those people that we consistently find ourselves challenged to love is "extra grace required" people. But even people ...

July 01 2013 2 responses Vote Up Share Report

Mini Daniel Veler
The key to understanding loving one another is whether or not God has put his love in your heart. You see, one of the fruits of the Holy Spirit is God’s love. Scriptures tell us us if we say we love God and hate our brother, that man is a liar, for the love of God is not in him. 

1 John 4: 7: Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God. 8 He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love. 9 In this was manifested the love of God toward us, because that God sent his only begotten Son into the world, that we might live through him. 10 Herein is love, not that we loved God, but that he loved us.

1 John 4: 20: If a man say, I love God, and hateth his brother, he is a liar: for he that loveth not his brother whom he hath seen, how can he love God whom he hath not seen? 21 And this commandment have we from him, That he who loveth God love his brother also.

Hope this helps.

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Nietzsche 1875 Wilfrid Friedrich Nietzsche
How can we love each other when...
"the misfortune of one is the happiness of the other" (Law of Jungle) (Ec 8:9)?
How can we love one another when we were created "self-destructive" ?

"All this I saw, as I applied my mind to everything done under the sun. There is a time when a man lords it over others to his own hurt."(Ec 8:9) 

"Most important relationship we can all have is the one you have with yourself, the most important journey you can take is one of self-discovery. To know yourself, you must spend time with yourself, you must not be afraid to be alone. Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom." (Aristotle)

"He is his own best friend, and takes delight in privacy whereas the man of no virtue or ability is his own worst enemy and is afraid of solitude." (Aristotle)

"Having a lot of friend's is having no friends" (Aristotle)
"The friend of everybody is not a friend" (Aristotle)

"Our neighbour is not our neighbour, but our neighbor's neighbour (W.F. Nietzsche) In other word's, nobody cares about anybody !

Of course, “But the worst enemy you can meet will always be yourself" (W.F. Nietzsche), meaning "self-destructive"

"I think that nobody should trust nobody, I think that all people are assholes until proving different and I think that if you take that point of view, you'll be disappointed less in life. If you always expect the worst from people then the minute they do something nice it's a pleasure. If you think the people are good then you'll always be disappointed, because they're not! They don't care ! Don't expect friends, don't expect fun, don't expect a good life, don't expect anything and if you get something (from life), it's a bonus." 
(Frank Zappa)

It is clear that Frank Zappa, Aristotle & Nietzsche promoted "loneliness" (over altruism).

Why is that ? Why do GREAT & honest thinker's such as these guy's preach "loneliness" & at the same time "self-destruction" when there is "no trust" to have in our neighbor ? Cause of course, our neighbour was also created "self-destructive" & "selfish". So how can we love one another when human nature = "selfishness" ? "Selfishness" begins with "procreation". The desire of having a cute little "toy" to play "God" with ! "Don't do this, don't do that ! But do this, & do that !" = (Manipulation). 
I'd rather do a "humanitarian action" : "adoption" (helping a life already in hell instead of putting one in hell; 1 Jn 5:19) 

So preaching "altruism" goes in contradiction with "selfishness" (procreation) cause life is all about "manipulating" our neighbor (Ec 8:9) in "each" facet of our lives. Love = "possession" (conditional love) for the Holy Bible. It's understood (2 Co 5:14,15) ! ((But ALSO by ABUSIVE POWER of NON-CHRISTIAN AUTHORITIES, allowed by God (Rm 13:1-5))

& that is what religion is all about ! & that is what the Elites of the Elites of this world (Elohim, Abusive-Sheppards) on top of the freemason pyramid are preaching also : "Your life & everything you possess belong's to us & all your moves are controled by us !"

So finally, my question is : How can we love one another (altruism) when the MAIN REASON of human nature = "selfishness" ? In other word's : Doesn't "altruism" go in contradiction with "selfishness" (procreation-human nature's race for hapiness) ?

October 11 2013 1 response Vote Up Share Report

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