I had a child with my non-believer fiance. We broke up since, but she is willing to get married now. Do I marry her to give my daughter a family unit with a Christian dad and upbringing even if it would mean we're unequally yoked?
2 Corinthians 6:14
ESV - 14 Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?
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Do you want to marry her? The idea that you'll change her once married is not a solid foundation. If you want to marry her then marry her, else let her go. Her decision to follow Christ or not is her own.
I know I can't change her only Jesus can do that, the main question I have is if I would be unequally yoked and sinning against God. I have heard it said that I am already unequally yoked since a child has been born from our relationship and I wouldn't be sinning if I married my daughter's mom. Since we have had a child together I feel it my responsibility to give my daughter a family unit and a Christian dad whose going to raise her on the foundation of Christ and disciple her, because I know it's highly unlikely that my daughter will get a Christian upbringing if we are not a family.
I think you should read the question and response on this site: "What should a Christian do if he or she is married to an unbeliever?"
I also think that you both should seriously consider if you love each other enough to make a commitment of marriage.
Another consideration is the child. She is innocent. Can you both commit to being a family? Will you raise her in a harmonious home? Can you both agree to teach her about God, and let her choose?
I pray you make, both make, the best choice for all of you.
Even if you do not marry, it is your right to teach her about your faith. God give you both wisdom.
If you have had intimate relations, then you are already yoked. Hence all the cautions in scripture about adultery (breaking someone else's yoke) and prostitution (joining in flesh while intending it not to be permanent.) That doesn't mean getting married would always automatucally be the wisest option, but it does mean that 'unequally yoked' isn't the overarching concern. The unequal yoking has already happened.
I think it may be important to read this verse of scripture in context. This verse is in a portion that talks about Paul's concern that the Corinthians were withdrawing from Him, at least emotionally. He had been delivering his gospel of truth.
The concern was that they were being drawn in by false apostles. Compare this verse to 2 Corinthians 11;4, 13.
Proverbs 4, talks about wisdom and the need for father's to teach their children.
This is also important to keep in mind...We are all born in sin, due to Adam. Romans 3:20,"Therefore by the deeds of the Law no flesh shall be justified in His sight, for by the Law is the knowledge of sin."
Each baby born is innocent, until the age of accountability. Nothing we do can change that fact. Everyone has to choose his own path.
2Corinthians 5:17, "Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold all things have become new."
Parents can only do so much.