ESV - 22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.
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My answer is based on my experience. First and foremost read what God’s word has to say about the roles of husband and wife. Together with that, I will add this - If you disagree about something: * Never yell at your spouse or belittle his/her opinions * Never punish your spouse with the silent treatment * Never go to bed angry * Always be respectful of your spouse for all their daily efforts * Always sit down to discuss what the problems are and take time to work out a solution without anger, yelling or scarcasm. * It’s ok to agree to disagree Everyone has “off” days. Agree to not pester each other when you sense that person needs space. * Be patient and kind * Be a good listener * Pray together and put God first in all your plans * Don’t forget to laugh and as my husband says enjoy the journey
Salvation is a free gift from God that no man can earn. But, our rewards in heaven are based on what we do with what we have been given. Young married couples do not understand the reward for staying together for life. You can not put a price on it. But it takes two. Love over comes a multitude of sins. And we are all sinners to a degree because we are not perfect in the flesh. We have been married for 60 years, and were best friends for four years before that. I could not live with anyone else. Now we are both almost 80. Spending time together is important. We still date once a week and go out for lunch. We talk to each other. But sometimes we are silent, but we share the silence. We do not have to say anything, When we look into each others eyes, there is something happens I can not explain. I wish I could explain love to others, but there are no words for it. The only thing is, the reward for staying together for life is its own reward.
With 32 years of married life experience, my advice is such: Trust is one of the main foundational support structure in any relationship. - Be TOTALLY open and honest with EVERYTHING - Don't keep cards under the table - Share the financial load as fairly as possible You can't have one partner paying for 90% of the monthly bills and the other spending their income on wants and luxuries. It will cause huge tension. Having separate accounts etc is great, but be open and honest. Share the load, tithe, cover needs, then save and only then "play" with any spare funds.
One key I have found to marital happiness is avoiding selfishness 1 John 5:14-15.
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