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There are scriptures to support each side in regards to church/home leadership.
In my heart I would have to agree that it is determined by God Almighty with each individual according to God's will with that party/person. (But we best always 1 John 4:1
Beloved, believe not every spirit, but try the spirits whether they are of God: because many false prophets are gone out into the world.)