Tim Maas Retired Quality Assurance Specialist with the U.S. Army

In my opinion, you have every right to ask God to make another person favorably disposed toward being your spouse and/or to order events in that direction.

However, God is omniscient, while we are not. He also always makes events work together for the good of His followers (Romans 8:28), even if we may not be able to see from our perspective how that applies to a particular circumstance at a specific point in time. And he has given people (both you and the person about whom you are praying) free will, as well.

My experience has been that, if we ask God for His help, and do on our part the best that we can to achieve the objective that we hope for, and yet we still do not attain it, then God is speaking to us through those circumstances, and we should be willing to accept the outcome, learn from the experience, and trust in God to provide what we seek -- that is (in this case), the spouse whom He intends for us, even if it is not the specific person we may currently have in mind -- in His time.

Speaking just for myself, I know that I experienced multiple occasions when I hoped that I might have found my "intended" life partner, but things did not work out. And yet, looking back, those disappointments prepared me to deal with challenges that arose (as they can between any two people, in my opinion) in the years after I finally did find the one whom I now believe He meant for me (as He validated for me by a confluence of external circumstances that were too numerous and too specific to be merely coincidence).

If I had not had that previous "schooling" (unpleasant as it may have been at the time), my marriage might not have lasted as long as it has, because I would not have had the necessary perspective about which things are really important versus which are not. And, as deep as the feelings were that I might have had in those previous relationships, I would not trade what I have today for even the best that I might possibly have had with any of those other individuals.

March 28 2016 • 0 responses • Vote Up • Share • Report